Why I hate men!

I was born into a conservative Muslim family belonging to North kerala. My family is mostly women dominated, in count, not in decision making. My mother is the eldest of the four daughters. Her parents didn't have any son. Her first child, that's my elder sibling, is also a girl. When I was about to be born, there was no reason why anybody wanted it to be a girl. But to everyone's disappointment here I am, their second daughter. I'm sure I must have brought a wrinkle to everyone's face!

If you're a malayali you are sure to have watched the movie Ustaad hotel. It's a must watch movie for biriyani lovers. But it is not biriyani that I want to mention here. Before Faizi’s birth, that's the lead role played by Dulquer Salman, his father was so eager to have a baby boy. He was anxious during each delivery praying that it be a boy. He had a lot of hopes and aspirations for his son who is yet to be born. But to his disappointment each time it was a girl. He did not give up. Finally his dream boy arrives, who was brought up in a royal way. I wonder whether anybody gives the slightest of thought about the girls who were born before. How it feels like to be unwanted and unlucky for the family.

Fortunately for me, my parents didn't see me as unwanted. Both of them being government employees, decided to limit to two children and be grateful for having daughters. They probably brought me up the same way they would have brought up a boy.

Now just for thought, there are a good number of girls around us who have to be ‘Faizi’s sisters’. They are the unappreciated ones, silently labeled as a burden to family. Their sole purpose is to get married and help the family vent out its load.

But don't you think girls too deserve the same importance as boys! Shouldn't parents have similar aspirations and dreams about a girl's life and career as much as they have for boy’s?

PS: I don't hate men. Just used it to make the caption catchy!  😉
In fact, it's the patriarchy inhabiting in us knowingly or unknowingly is what I dislike.